Jon’s aggression is like a tornado. Sometimes you can get a little notice that his aggressive behavior is starting and other times, it’s like the tornado that appears out of nowhere and leaves desolation in its wake…. His words batter and bruise and slice right through you. You bite your tongue so often to not make things worse, even though there are so many things that warrant a response. You know it won’t do any good; that it falls on cold, deaf ears.
He basically dares you to try to make him do something but you know if you touch him it will only get far, far worse.
So you duck, take cover, remove yourself from the situation as best as possible. You protect your other children. You send them away so they don’t have to receive as much of the verbal assault.
I am living in a constant tornado warning.
And then he just calms down…sometimes acting as if nothing even happened… But it did happen. Pieces of relationships are broken and may not be fixable. What do I do now? How do I act towards my son when he wants to give me a hug later, and I don’t want him anywhere near me?
WHAT DO I DO NOW??????????